Diamonds are examined for clarity. The more they reflect and refract light, the more transparency they have. This is also and indication of purity. My diamond-cutter mother always taught me to be clear about who I am and what I want in life. She taught her children to be honest and open in order for us to demonstrate our integrity. This also affords her the ability to defend us in any situation in which our honesty is questioned.
When I was in college, I worked with my friend and lab partner on a Chemistry test and report. It was to be a joint effort. My friend did not understand the chemical problems like I did, so I did most of the report. When we got our grades from the teacher’s assistant, she got an “A” on the report and I got a “C.” I questioned the assistant and he told me I obviously copied from her. You see my friend was Caucasian, and my being Black meant that I knew less than she did. At least, that’s what I read in his message. I was so upset that I called my mother from a payphone collect (I’m dating myself here. We didn’t have cellphone at that time). I told her what happened and that I wanted to quit school and come home. She managed to calm me down and told me to go to the head of the Chemistry department and explain what happened.
Imagine my joy when I walked into to meet with this man and found out he was West Indian! My friend and I explained to him the situation and he immediately corrected my grade and reprimanded the assistant. That weekend, my mother paid me a surprised visit and brought along a new bicycle and TV for me. She said whenever I felt frustrated I should ride the bicycle; and if I could not, then watch a comedy on the TV.
We must have clarity about our values. What values do you hold that you will not comprise in any given situation? Is it integrity, loyalty, honesty? Be certain of these and examine why you hold these values. These help to define who you are as a person. If you don’t know them, take the time to learn what they are. The danger in not knowing what you stand for may give the wrong person the opportunity to define your values for you; thus, defining who you are.
I thank my mother for taking the time to instill certain principles and values in me. Her lessons have helped me and continue to help me on my journey to living my life’s purpose. If you are not sure of your values, seek out the right people to help you uncover them.
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The fourth and final part of this series will define the carat of living a diamonds life! Until then, keep pursuing your purpose and living a diamond life!